Pick any chapters. Each download includes a copy of sexual assault survivor resources.
What are you most interested in?
Each download option also includes my basic escape story, so you have the context for the rest of the chapters.
The 10-Step Grooming Process used by sexual predators to victimize you
This grooming process is what rape survivor Cameron Altaras experienced as an adult. Child sexual abuse victims are groomed slightly differently, but mostly the same. To hear my converation with Cameron about the difference, please check out our podcast episode on iTunes or YouTube.
Cameron was violated by Vernon Leis, her Mennonite father-in-law, a highly revered (now deceased) pastor. In the Mennonite world, he’s the equivalent status of Harvey Weinstein.
Less a book and more a confession from a close friend.
Riveting, inspiring, empowering.”
– Brian Young
Navajo Writer + Filmmaker
"Absolutely a must-read"
I found this book and the author’s personal journey to be so inspiring and empowering, as she describes and reflects on her escape from a terrible situation at a young age as well as her entrance into a culture (and even a language) quite different from her own.
Her journey from Amish upbringing to graduating from one of the most elite universities in the USA is amazing.
Highly, highly recommended, and my congratulations to the author for her success and hard work in processing so many traumas allowing her to be able to share her story in written form with us!
Melanie Jones, Reader Review
"My mouth dropped when I read the intimate details revealed!"
Once I started reading this book I could not put it down until I finished it.
There is one chapter in the book that literally had my mouth drop when I read the intimate details Torah enclosed! A must read for anyone!
Lizzie Hershberger, Reader Review
"Highly recommend . . . inspiring true life story about succeeding despite all odds"
Despite being uneducated at the time her escape and not speaking English as her first language, she then goes on to graduate from one of the most elite universities in the USA.
I highly recommend this to anyone looking for inspiring true life stories about overcoming trauma, self-empowerment (especially female empowerment), and succeeding in life despite all odds.
Keerthi Vemulapalli, Reader Review
"This book kept me riveted until the end"
This book kept me riveted until the end. The emotional lows that she went through were so painful and traumatizing that I could empathize with her pain and hope now she can live a better life.
Tina, Reader Review
One chapter in the book literally made my mouth drop when I read the intimate details Torah revealed!”
– L. Hershberger
– Melanie Jones
Amish ChildrenOld Order Midwestern
If you read it, you’ll find a part of yourself in my story.
It’s for you if you’ve ever felt foreign in the body or culture you were born in.
Or if you’ve dedicated your life to answering the questions:
Who am I?
Why am I here?
Why don’t my parents love me?
Why does bad shit happen to me?
Will I ever be happy and loved?
– Torah Bontrager
An Amish Girl in Manhattan: Escaping at Age 15, Breaking All the Rules, and Feeling Safe Again (a memoir)